negative space is harmful to our overall well-being, because what you dwell on can easily become self fulfilling if you don'tchange your mindset.
让我们⼀起⾏动起来，消灭那些我们经常告诉⾃⼰的消极想法吧!如果你不改变想法，⽽是⼀味地沉浸在消极的念头中，那么，我们的整个⾝⼼就会受到影响，因为“噩梦”也会成真。 1.I'm not good enough. 我不够好。
This type of negative thought that can apply to many categories. Maybe you don't think you're a good enough mother orgood at a sport. Even if you find yourself lacking in something, there's no need to keep repeating it to yourself. The humanbrain is an incredible thing. Be inspired by Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, Harvard-trained neuroscientist who suffered a stroke that lefther unable to walk, read, write, talk, or remember her previous life. Dr. Taylor took eight years to recover and has since thenwritten a best-selling book about her experience and appeared on Oprah. Keep on working toward something, and watch theleaps and bounds you'll make.
这种消极想法有很多类型。⽐如你认为⾃⼰不是个称职的妈妈或不擅长运动。即使你真的发现了⾃⼰的弱点，也没必要对⾃⼰不断复述。⼈脑是神奇的。吉尔泰勒就是个激励的好典型，她是哈佛⼤学的神经系统学专家，中风后她就失去了⾏⾛、阅读、书写、交谈的能⼒了，甚⾄还失忆了。她花了⼋年的时间复原，⽤⾃⼰的经历写了畅销书，还上了奥普拉的节⽬。坚持做⼀件事，亲眼见证⾃⼰的变化。 2.No one cares about me. 没⼈关⼼我。
To accurately say that your family and friends don't care about you would be a very rare situation. Maybe you're beingtoo negative and overlooking the gestures of love they show you. They don't even have to be big gestures, but it's the littlethings they do for you that count. And people may be reacting to the energy you're putting out; perhaps you think they don'tcare about you so you don't make any effort in your relationships. Start showing people you care, so they can show you backin kind. And if you don't have good relationships with the people you know, what's stopping you from making new friends? 家⼈朋友都不关⼼你，这种情况其实不太常见。可能你过于消极的想法使你忽略了他们对你表达的爱。他们甚⾄并不需要为你做什么惊天动地的⼤事，正是⼀些⼩事才真正打动⼈⼼。或者你觉得没⼈关⼼你，所以⽆需再经营⼈际关系，但其实也许⼈们只有在感知到你的付出后，才会对你进⾏回报;关⼼别⼈，别⼈才会关⼼你。如果你和周围⼈的关系处理不好，为何不结交些新朋友?
3.I really dislike this person. 我真的不喜欢这个⼈。
If you dislike a person in your work or personal life, focusing on her bad qualities is not going to make things better. Youneed to let go of your assumptions about her and know that she is human too, which means she makes mistakes. Either youmove on and stop thinking and talking about her, or learn to approach her or think about her in a positive manner. Focus onher good qualities, and repeat them to yourself instead of honing in on the unpleasant things.
如果⼯作或⽣活中有你讨厌的⼈，只关注她的缺点有害⽆益。你需要放下对她的所有成见，告诉⾃⼰她也是个⼈，也有犯错的时候。要么就不再谈论她和想着她，要么学着去接近她，或想想她好的⼀⾯。多想想她的优点，不要再专注于让你不开⼼的事情。
4.Why is she better off? 为什么她⽐我好?
Comparing yourself to someone else is never productive or positive. There's always going to be someone who isyounger, prettier, smarter, or richer than you. If you keep coveting what someone else has, then this may cause you to beresentful of them, which will open a whole other negative can of worms. Remember, what they don't have is your wholepackage. Be appreciative of what you have, because if you want to play the comparison game, remember that there arepeople who are also worse off than you are.
和别⼈⽐较永远不是有效率和积极的表现。总有⽐你年轻，漂亮，聪明，富有的⼈。如果你始终关注别⼈拥有什么，会带来你对他们的恨意，随即带来更多消极的想法。记住，你所拥有的也是他们所没有的。珍惜你所拥有的东西，如果真的想和别⼈⽐较，也别忘了总有⽐你差的⼈。 5.I'll never reach my goal. 我永远⽆法达到⽬标。
If you think you're not going to be able \"get there,\" think again. There are many people who are worse off and haveovercome bigger obstacles than what you are facing. Take, for example, Olympic sprinter Oscar Pistorius, an amputee whoovercame his handicap to compete in the Olympics against his able-bodied peers. Everything is within your reach as long asyou work hard and have a a positive attitude.
如果你认为⾃⼰达不到，再想想。⽐你差的⼈⽐⽐皆是，他们遇到的困难也⽐你的更⼤。⽐如，奥运会短跑选⼿⼑锋战⼠奥斯卡·⽪斯托利斯，⼀个被截肢的运动员，战胜了⾃⼰的阻碍，在其他健壮的对⼿中脱颖⽽出赢得了奥运会的冠军。只要你努⼒付出，有着积极的信念，任何事都能够做到。
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