Attitude is everything

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say, or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.

I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes. So ,I live actively and try my best to do everything I want to do. I believe that\"Attitude is everything\".

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Chapter One

Attitude Is Everything Step 1

Understand the power of \"attitude.\"

The first thing you need to do to turn your attitude into action is to tap into the power of your attitude. This key step is the foundation on which the other nine steps in this book are built. Attitude is everything.

As far back as I can remember, I've heard about the importance of a positive attitude.

I heard it from my parents, teachers, coaches, and supervisors over the years. Not only did I hear it, I saw the powerful impact a positive attitude could have. I've seen it countless times in the lives of highly successful people. Some of these success stories make front-page headlines. Those that aren't making the news are certainly making headlines in the lives of those around them. A positive attitude is the foundation of a successful life.

With such compelling evidence to support the theory that a positive attitude pays off, I have made it my lifework to personally embrace a super-fantastic attitude and help others understand that attitude is everything.

Some have questioned my assertion, telling me that attitude isn't everything. That much more is involved in achieving success. Of course, it takes planning and hard work to reach your goals. I believe it is absolutely critical that whatever you do, you should do with all your might. Go for it! Work to the best of your ability.

But your ability may be much higher than you realize. It all comes back to attitude. Attitude is everything because it is involved in everything. It impacts our performance at work and our relationships. Attitude is the cornerstone upon which we build our lives.

If attitude is so important, we'd best understand its meaning. The American Heritage Dictionary defines attitude as a state of mind or feeling with regard to some matter. For me, attitude can be defined in one word: life. The attitude that you carry around makes an incredible difference in your life. It can be a powerful tool for positive action. Or it can be a poison that cripples your ability to fulfill your potential. Your attitude dictates whether you are living life or life is living you. Attitude determines whether you are on the way or in the way.

To develop an attitude that helps you live life to its fullest, as you were designed to do, you must first understand that the heart is the control center for your attitude. Your

attitude is nothing but an outward reflection of what resides on the inside. To change your attitude, you must change your heart.

Ear-Gate, Eye-Gate, and Mouth-Gate

The most powerful computer in the world is the human computer. Our programming, then, comes through what we hear, see, and say. We can be programmed for success or failure based on how well we monitor what I call the ear-gate, eye-gate, and mouth-gate. What we see through our eye-gate goes directly into our hearts, frequently having a profound effect on our state of mind, sense of well-being, and, you guessed it -- our attitude. Likewise, what we hear through our ear-gate has the power to lift us up or drag us down. Finally, the mouth-gate speaks to the heart-mouth connection. As the proverb says, \"Out of the issues of your heart, your mouth speaks.\" Our words have a tremendous impact on our attitude and the attitudes of those around us.

These concepts will be more fully developed throughout the book. You will see that regardless of what you have taken to heart throughout your life, it is possible to reprogram your attitude. It's a powerful transformation that can bring you both personal and professional success.

Keith Harrell's Reprogramming

Stories of my own reprogramming began early in life.

I spent most of my young adulthood chasing a dream to become a professional basketball player. In high school, I was an All-American and the Most Valuable Player of our state championship team. I accepted a scholarship to Seattle University, where I was the team captain for three of my four years. I averaged more than sixteen points per game in my senior year. In June of 1979, I expected to be drafted by a National Basketball Association team. It was a dream that I had shared with everyone I knew. My fa

mily, friends, teammates, and others who had followed my career had come to expect that it would happen, based on my success as a player in high school and college.

On the day of the NBA draft, I waited and waited and waited ... but the phone did not ring. I was devastated. I had devoted myself to the sport and to my future as an NBA player. It was tough to give up on that dream. I felt cheated when it didn't happen.

In the days and weeks that followed, the bitterness was revived every time someone commented on my failure to be drafted. It didn't help when strangers would note my sixfoot- six-inch height and say, \"You must play pro basketball.\" For a long time I fought the bitterness. Finally I decided to let go of the negative feelings. I found a way to embrace this major change and focus on being positive instead. I realized that to grow inwardly I had to move on with my life.

I developed a new attitude and a new response to questions about my height. Not long ago, a woman seated next to me at a luncheon asked if I played with the NBA.

\"Yes, I do,\" I replied. \"I'm a first-round draft choice. I'm the most valuable player. I'm owner of the team, and we win the championship every year!\"

\"So you do play with the NBA?\" she asked.

\"Yes, I do. I play with my Natural-Born Abilities, and I'm slam-dunking every day!\"

I did recover my positive attitude, but it took a focused effort to reframe my perspective, which is one of the key things I'm going to teach you in this book ...

态度最重要

法兰西 杰弗逊

杰里真是个招人恨的家伙。他是这样一种人--总是心情快乐、情绪高涨，总能说出积极的话来。当别人问他一切可好时，他就回答：”再好我就是双胞胎了！”

认识杰里的时候，我还年轻，是一家餐饮公司的经理。他则是个与众不同的经理，因为到每家餐馆都有一些服务员围着他团团转。服务员围着杰里转是因为他的态度。他天生善于激励人。如果哪个雇员不走运了，杰里就去告诉他要往事情好的一面看。

看到他如此作风我甚感好奇，于是一天我走到杰里跟前问他：”我不明白！你不可能一直保持积极乐观吧。你是怎么做的呢？”

杰里回答说：”每天早上醒来后我对自己说：‘杰里，今天你有两个选择。你可以选择一个好心情，也可以选择一个坏心情。’我选择了好心情。每次坏事发生时，我可以选择成为受害者，也可以选择从中吸取教训。我选择了从中吸取教训。每当有人向我抱怨时，我可以选择听他们抱怨，或者给他们指出生活积极的一面。我选择了指出生活积极的一面。生活就是由许多选择组成的。”

我仔细地考虑着杰里的话。不久后，我离开餐饮公司去追求个人发展。我们失去了联系，但是每当我对生活做抉择而非被动于生活的时候，就常常想起他。

几年之后，我听说杰里做了件在餐饮业里难以想像到的事情：一天早晨，他没关后门，三个持枪匪徒走进来，拿枪指着他。开保险箱的时候，他由于紧张，手从保险锁上滑下来。匪徒紧张之下开枪打穿了他的手，接着又有三枚子弹正中他的腹部。别人打电话叫医生的时候，他躺在地板上奄奄一息。他们赶紧把他送到当地的伤疗中心，经过18个小时的手术和几个星期的悉心护理后，过了一个月，他终于出院了。体内还残留着子弹的碎片。

六个月后我见到了杰里。我问他身体怎样了，他答道：”再好我就是双胞胎了。想不想看看我的伤疤？”我没看他的伤疤，但我问他在抢劫案发生的时候，他脑子里在想些什么。 “我首先想的，”杰里回答，”是我要是把后门锁上就好了。接着躺在地板上的时候，我想到自己有两个选择：我可以选择生，或者选择死。我选择了生。” “你难道一点也不怕吗？你失去知觉了吗？”我问。

杰里继续说：”医生很好。他们不断地告诉我我会好起来来的。但他们推我进急救室时，我看到医生和护士脸上的表情，觉得很害怕。他们看起来全似把我当成死人一般。我知道该要采取些行动了。”

“你做了什么？”我问。

“这个，有个牛高马大的护士朝我喊：‘杰里，你有对什么东西过敏吗？’‘有，’我喊回去。‘是什么？’她问。医生和护士们停下来等我的回答。我深深吸了口气，喊道：‘子弹！’他们全笑起来，接着我对他们说：‘瞧，我选择要活下来。给我动手术，把我当成个活人而不是死人。’”

杰里活了下来，部分原因是他的医生医术高明，但更主要是因为他那不屈不挠的态度。

1) hold up 举起 2) gunpoint n. 枪口 3) combination n. 保险锁的暗码 4) abdomen n. 腹部 5) paramedics n. 医务人员 6) trauma n. 外伤，损伤

7) surgery [n. 外科，外科手术

8) consciousness n. 意识，知觉 9) burly a. 魁梧的 10) allergic a. 过敏 11) indomitable a. 不屈不挠

Attitude is Everything

The process of human change begins within us. We all have tremendous potential. We all desire good results from our efforts. Most of us are willing to work hard and to pay the price that success and happiness demand.

Each of us has the ability to put our unique human potential into action and to acquire a desired result. But the one thing that determines the level of our potential, that produces the intensity of our activity, and that predicts the quality of the result we receive is our attitude.

Attitude determines how much of the future we are allowed to see. It decides the size of our dreams and influences our

[The Butterfly]

[Facing the Enemies] [Acceptance] [Surrender] [Change & Choice] [As Ye Sow] [Faith] [Energy] [Attitude]

[Attitude is Everything] [Achieving Your Dreams] [Words] [Expectations]

[Doing the Remarkable]

determination when we are faced with new challenges. No other [The Formula]

person on earth has dominion over our attitude. People can affect [Balance] our attitude by teaching us poor thinking habits or

unintentionally misinforming us or providing us with negative

[Change]

[Rules Rule Your Life]

sources of influence, but no one can control our attitude unless [Patience]

[26 Principals of Life] we voluntarily surrender that control.

[The Violet Flame]

No one else \"makes us angry.\" We make ourselves angry when [Attitudinal Healing] [Manifestation] we surrender control of our attitude. What someone else may have done is irrelevant. We choose, not they. They merely put

[True Self]

our attitude to a test. If we select a volatile attitude by becoming [Enthusiasm]

hostile, angry, jealous or suspicious, then we have failed the test. [Break Down Your Goals]

If we condemn ourselves by believing that we are unworthy, then [Forgiveness] again, we have failed the test.

If we care at all about ourselves, then we must accept full responsibility for our own feelings. We must learn to guard against those feelings that have the capacity to lead our attitude down the wrong path and to strengthen those feelings that can lead us confidently into a better future.

If we want to receive the rewards the future holds in trust for us, then we must exercise the most important choice given to us as members of the human race by maintaining total dominion over our attitude. Our attitude is an asset, a treasure of great value, which must be protected accordingly. Beware of the vandals and thieves among us who would injure our positive attitude or seek to steal it away.

Having the right attitude is one of the basics that success requires. The combination of a sound personal philosophy and a positive attitude about ourselves and the world around us gives us an inner strength and a firm resolve that influences all the other areas of our existence. To Your Success, Jim Rohn

This article was submitted by Jim Rohn, America's Foremost Business Philosopher. To subscribe to the Free Jim Rohn Weekly E-zine go to www.jimrohn.com or send a blank email to subscribe@jimrohn.com Copyright © 2000 Jim Rohn International. All rights reserved worldwide.

有这样一个公式：

―如果将英文字母A到Z分别编上数字1-26，如A=1,B=2,....Z=26.那么： 知识（knowledge）得到96分， 努力（hardwork） 得到98分，

而态度（attitude）得到的是100分（1+20+20+9+20+4+5）。

Attitude is everything (面试版）

我们在讨论决定谁最适合这份工作。

马力指着一份简历：\"山玛的学历最高，他具备这个工作所有的知识（KNOWLEDGE）。\"

\"但是，马力，看看艾嘉的；她的介绍信上说她工作努力（HARD WORK），而且我们面试的时候也证明了这一点，我们的底线就是要找这样的人——一个不怕吃苦的员工。\" 我坐在那里听他们讨论，马力看着我，\"那你觉得我们需要是专业知识充分的员工，还是工作努力的员工？\"

\"两者都需要，但你们忽略一样东西。\"他们吃惊地看着我，\"知识固然重要，但通过学习可以获得，努力工作也很重要，但一味地工作而看不到不足之处或找不到更有效的工作方法，这样的员工对我们也没有多大帮助。\" \"那就是他们都不适合了！\"

\"我觉得露兰适合。之所以她合适，是因为她的态度（ATTITUDE）。\"

我开始给他们解释：\"露兰没有较高的学历，但她的面试问题答案可以看出她善于寻找方法改进工作，而不是一味的干活。给我印象最深的就是她的态度，介绍信上说她对事物总是保持积极的态度并进而影响周围的人，我们就是需要这样的人——思考工作方式和工作内容的人，善于发现问题和解决问题的人。\"

\"记得我们的总裁讲过，他父亲在他要工作时，讲的一个故事： 一天，父亲在白板上写下26个字母，然后，每个下面写上对应的数字： A..B...C...D...E..F...G....H...I...J...K...L...M....N 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 O...P...Q...R....S....T....U....V....W....X....Y....Z 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 然后告诉总裁：

K=11 N=14 O=15 W=23 L=12 E=5 D=4 G=7 E=5 KNOWLEDGE这几个字母表示‗知识'，即知识=96分；

又说：

H=8 A=1 R=18 D=4 W=23 O=15 R=18 K=11 HARDWORK表示‗努力工作'，既努力工作=98分.

最后又写了：

A=1 T=20 T=20 I=9 T=20 U=21 D=4 E=5 ATTITUDE表示‗态度'，既态度=100分。

\"总裁在父亲那里学到了最珍贵的东西，使他一辈子受用。\" 他们笑了。

第四天，露兰开始自信地上班。

这也就是说态度决定一切（attitude is everything），我很喜欢这个公式。 关于”态度“（Attitude)的小故事(2009-07-17 13:15:17) 标签：小故事 大道理 杂谈

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人常说，思维决定行动，态度决定一切。十五世纪一个宗教改革家写的一本书，在书中他讲了自己青年时代的一个小故事，而这个故事改变了他的一生。现在和大家一起过分享一下。

他说有一天他路过一个烈日炎炎下巨大的工地，所有人都在汗流浃背的搬砖。 他去问第一人说，你在干什么哪？

那个人特别没好气地告诉他，你看不见啊，我这不是服苦役——搬砖吗？

他又把这个问题去问第二个人。这个人的态度比第一个要平和很多，他先把手里的砖码齐，看了看说，我在砌堵墙啊。

后来他又去问第三个人。那个人脸上一直有一种祥和的光彩，他把手里的砖放下，抬头擦了一把汗，很骄傲地跟这个人说，你是在问我吗？我在盖一座教堂啊。

大家看一看，这三个人做的事情是一摸一样的，但是他们给出来的解读却是三个层次：

第一种人的态度是悲观主义的态度。他可以把我们所做的每一件事都看做是生活强加给的一份苦役，他关注的是当下的辛苦，当然这也是确实存在的。

第二种人的态度是职业主义的态度。他知道自己在砌一堵墙，这堵墙是一个局部成品，他知道要对得起今天的岗位，要对得起他的一份薪水、一个职务和职称，所以他的态度不低于职业化的底线。但是他没有更高的追求。

而第三人的态度为理想主义的态度，也就是说，他看到眼前的每一块砖，每一滴汗，他都知道这是在通往一座圣殿。他知道，他的每一步都是有价值的，他的付出一定会得到最终的成全。此时，他所做的事情绝不仅仅作为一个器皿，而是关系到我们的生命，我们的梦想，关系到我们最终能不能建筑一座教堂。

所以，我们在平常工作生活中，不要把事情看成是一种苦役，而是想到梦想，我们在这个过程中，才会感受快乐成就感。

只要你心中有梦，明天的太阳一定会更灿烂！

Attitude is everything.

You will get what you want out of life only if you are able to get along with people. Getting along with others means that they like you and will do things for you. In other words, they react positively to your personality. Your personality is nothing more than attitudes in action. It is the way you communicate your thoughts about others and yourself. Here are some pointers to make your personality pleasing, one that creates positive actions in others. 1. To have a friend, you must be one.

2. The greatest hunger that people have is to be needed, wanted and loved. Help create those feelings in others. 3. Don‘t try to impress others. Let them impress you.

4. Be kind to people. You can‘t always love them, but you can be kind to them. 5. Learn to like yourself. Others will respond to you the way you respond to yourself.

6. Be enthusiastic. Nothing significant was ever achieved without enthusiasm – including deep, rich human relationships.7. Be positive. Positive people attract others; negative people repel others.

8. Do things to make people feel important. Write a letter. Give a compliment. Say ―thank you.‖ Praise, encourage, support and cooperate.

9. Sticking up for your ―rights‖ is great, but do you always have to be right? Letting the other person be right once in a while will keep friendships warm.

10. Be a good listener. You can have a greater effect on others by the way you listen than by the way you talk. 11. Unless you can say something worthy of a person, say nothing. 12. Call a person by name, use it often in conversation.13. Communicate cheerfulness. Smile. Be pleasant. Talk about the brighter things in life. 14. Avoid arguments.

15. If you‘re going to make fun of someone, make sure it‘s you.

16.Help people help themselves.The grestest compliment some one can give you to say\"I like myself better when I with you.

17. Be genuinely interested in others. Get them to talk about themselves. Ask for their opinions, ideas, and viewpoints.

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say, or do.

It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.

I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes.

年岁愈增，我就愈加深切地意识到态度对生活的影响。

对我来说，态度比事实更重要。态度比过去的经历、比教育、比金钱、比环境、比失败、比成功、比他人的想法、言语、行为更重要。

态度比容貌、比天分、比技能更重要。态度是一家公司、一座教堂、一个家庭兴衰存亡之所系。 值得注意的是，我们每天都可以选择，选择当天要采取的态度。

我们不能改变过去。我们不能改变人总要以某种方式行事这一事实。我们不能改变必然要发生的事情，我们惟一能做的就是弹奏好自己的那根琴弦，那就是我们的态度。

我深信，我生活的10%是事情本身，90%是我对事情所采取的态度。你也如此。我们掌控着自己的态度。